दरबार-ए-इश्क़ से खैरात जो मिली मुझको,
मेरे नसीब की झोली में आपका इंतज़ार आया।
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“कौन कहता है कि वो मुझसे बिछड़कर खुश है…,
जरा उनके सामने मेरा नाम लेकर तो देखना…!”
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Let’s be honest, most of us aren’t orgasming machines every time we have sex. Whether you’re having trouble reaching your full potential or the usual foreplay just isn’t doing it for you, sometimes you just feel…off.
And that’s completely normal, says certified sex therapist Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. “Orgasms can be affected by many variables, from hormonal fluctuations, to how we feel about our relationship, to work stress,” she says.
But how do you know whether your O is just going through a rough patch or it’s something more serious? Van Kirk and board-certified clinical sexologist Debra Laino say these are big indicators that it’s time to try a home remedy or get some help from a profesh:
You’re Stressed About It
Worrying about not being able to orgasm can have a direct impact on your ability to orgasm. Annoying, right? “Spending too much time focusing on having an orgasm leads to performance anxiety and stress,” says Laino. Not only that, zeroing in on the end result (i.e. whether or not you finish) makes you less likely to enjoy sex, period.
Instead of keeping your eye on the prize, she recommends concentrating on the pleasure you feel in your body. If an orgasm happens—great. If not, at least you enjoyed the ride.
You Fake It on the Regular
While you’re probably putting on a show with the best of intentions (i.e. you don’t want to hurt his feelings), it’s not doing you or your partner any favors. “If you have a pattern of faking orgasms, you may want to look at how and why you aren’t getting the stimulation you need,” says Van Kirk.
If sex just isn’t doing it for you, Laino recommends a little self-love to explore what gets you off. Then, you can guide your guy to help him hit the right spots. You can also bring a vibrator into the mix to help show him what feels good, she says.
You’re Embarrassed
There’s no shame in not being able to orgasm—and Van Kirk says you should talk to your partner about it if you’re having trouble.
“Feeling uncomfortable about discussing why you’re not reaching the O with your partner may indicate that you need to work on communication with each other,” says Van Kirk. Talking about your lack of grand finale can help you figure out the kind of stimulation you need to reach the finish line, she says.
To get the ball rolling, just be honest and say, “I haven’t been orgasming as much lately,” and suggest that you experiment together in bed to find a solution. Odds are, he’ll be psyched to try some new things.
You’re Having Sex Regularly, But It’s Been Months Since Your Last O
Sure, a bunch of factors can mess up your ability to orgasm, but Laino says you’re entering red flag territory if you’re having sex at least once a week and haven’t had an orgasm in two months (that’s if you’ve been able to reach O-town on the reg before). The same is true if you have sex several times a week and haven’t orgasmed in weeks.
It may be as simple as pinpointing your stressors and making an effort to relax. But if you’re still struggling, it may be time to bring out the big guns—a.k.a. a sex counselor.
“If you’ve tried to troubleshoot some of these issues on your own but find that your orgasm is elusive months later, it’s probably time to talk to a sex therapist,” says Van Kirk. She recommends visiting the website of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, to find a professional near you.
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दीदार की ‘तलब’ हो तो नज़र जमाये रखना;
क्यूंकि, ‘नक़ाब’ हो या ‘नसीब’ सरकता जरूर है।
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मत पूछो यारो हमने भी कैसे कैसे चेहरे देखे है…
जो खुद ही नही जीत पाते वो हमे हराने निकले है..
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The elusive G-spot is one of the most hotly debated topics when it comes to women’s sexual health. It’s basically science vs. women’s anecdotal evidence: some studies have concluded it simply doesn’t exist, which baffles women who hear the results of this kind of research and think, “Okay, then WTF was I hitting last night?”
“You’ve got plenty of women reporting that it’s an area that’s erogenous and different from other other areas of the vaginal canal,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., sexuality educator and author of Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Any Lover. “I do acknowledge that, for some women, the G-spot is not a hot spot, just like the nipples, for example, might not be an erogenous zone for some people. But that doesn’t mean that it’s not an erogenous zone for others.” For those of you certain the G-spot exists but just need a little help finding it, here’s how.
If you’re a believer, the G-spot is like the sexual version of a magic carpet ride: It can unlock a whole new world of pleasure. “It’s a small mass of spongy erectile nerve tissue, paraurethral ducts and glands, and blood vessels, which can be erogenous for many women during sexual arousal,” says Fulbright. The G-spot is nestled between your pubic bone and the front of your cervix, about two inches into the vaginal opening on the front wall of your vagina (the one closer to your stomach, not your back).
Before you take your fingers on a spelunking mission, a bit of homework: get into a sexy mood. When you’re aroused, more blood rushes to your pelvic region and the spot becomes raised and feels rougher than the rest of your insides. “If you’re not turned on, it will be hard to feel this area,” says Fulbright. So light some candles, fantasize, fire up some porn, or do whatever else you like. Once you’re all hot and bothered, insert two or three well-lubed fingers palm-up, about two inches in. Feel around for that rough patch, which can be “as small as your pinky fingernail or as large as a half-dollar,” says Fulbright.
Once you find it (good job!), use firm, deep pressure to stroke the area. Try a rhythmic circular motion or more of an up-and-down technique, says Fulbright. Another popular method is moving your fingers like you’re commanding, “come here,” which, actually, you kind of are, right? Keep in mind that the G-spot isn’t actually on the vaginal front wall. Rather, it’s something you can feel through the center of the front wall or a bit off to the left or right of the center. Since it’s not right there, you may need more pressure than you think to hit the jackpot.
If it’s feeling good so far, increase the rhythm and create a lot of friction as you go on to boost your chances of orgasm. “Stimulating the area will create sensations if it’s a hot spot for you. Some gals have described a warm, flushing feeling throughout their genitals and body,” says Fulbright. “Others have said they become a lot wetter.” Even better, she says women have reported G-spot orgasms feeling fuller, more intense, more emotional, and more full-bodied than the clitoral variety. Of course, if you don’t reach the Big O but it feels crazy good anyway, that’s awesome, too. Getting to know your body is always a good thing.
Now, if you’re interested in squirting, or female ejaculation, tapping into your G-spot might be the way to go. Although there’s the perennial question around whether squirting is just urinating during sex, according to some experts, G-spot experimentation can help bring it on. “G-spot stimulation is often encouraged in exploring one’s potential to squirt since the ejaculate often occurs when a woman is peaking—not necessarily climaxing—during G-spot play,” says Fulbright. If you’re intrigued but too concerned about accidentally peeing to try it out, just make sure you go to the bathroom first. Happy experimenting!
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It’s a common stereotype that for men, sex is like pizza: even when it’s bad, it’s good. But that’s one of the many sexual myths that we might want throw out for good. “We always talk about the differences between men and women, but I think we’ve exaggerated that,” says Abraham Morgentaler, M.D., author of Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex. As the director of Men’s Health Boston and an associate clinical professor of urology at Harvard Medical School, Morgentaler has been helping men with their sex lives for over 25 years. And as the title of his book implies, he’s heard some very interesting things in his practice.
So we asked Morgentaler to enlighten us with some of the most surprising things women don’t know about men and sex. You might want to sit down for this:
Men Can—And Do—Fake Orgasms
A Male Orgasm Doesn’t Always Come with Evidence
Seriously! In some cases, men can actually orgasm without ejaculating, says Morgentaler. In some men with diabetes, the opening to the bladder doesn’t close well, and the fluid can go back into the bladder (it’s released when they urinate after sex). Another slightly more common example is older men who have had a radical prostatectomy. And although Morgentaler isn’t totally sure about this one, people who practice tantric sex often believe that men can experience an orgasm without ejaculating.
They Fake it for the Same Reasons Women Fake It
According to most of the men Morgentaler has treated, the primary reason for faking it was because it just wasn’t going to happen for them during sex (which is also one of the reasons women fake orgasms). Maybe he’s had too much drink, he’s feeling anxious, or he’s on medications for anxiety or depression that make it harder to orgasm. “It’s almost the same as what happens with women,” says Morgentaler. “It’s a way of saying to their partner that they still did a good job, everything’s fine, and it’s enough for now.” Essentially, both genders fake it for pretty unselfish reasons. (That said, it doesn’t make it the best idea. Read our tips to never fake an orgasm again.)
Younger Men Have Problems With Erections, Too
It’s not just the over 40 crowd that’s seeking sex therapy and little blue pills. “Men—including young men—have a lot of sexual issues,” says Morgentaler. “This is not rare by any means.” And it’s not just erectile problems that they’re suffering with—premature ejaculation affects about 20 percent of men, says Morgentaler.
Men Aren’t Always in the Mood
“This idea that man are ever-ready, ever-willing is actually not true,” says Morgentaler. “It may be true at 18, but things change once you have responsibilities.” We think it’s normal when we’re not in the mood because we’re stressed or bloated, but for some reason we assume guys are immune to stuff like this. The thing is, they aren’t. So if he isn’t really feeling it tonight, don’t freak out—it’s totally normal for guys to pass on sex every now and then.
Men Are Often More Focused On Your Pleasure Than Their Own
There’s a myth that guys can be a little selfish in the bedroom. But from the cases Morgentaler has seen in his practice, it’s quite the opposite. Men, like women, are often more concerned with pleasing their partner. “As soon as a man has any kind of feelings for a partner—even on the level of wanting her to like him—a lot of that focus on his own satisfaction gets shifted to wanting to be good in her eyes,” he says.
One of Morgentaler’s favorite examples of this is a patient who is a paraplegic and was finally able to have sex with his wife with the help of penile injections. He was thrilled and told Morgentaler he felt like a man again—but remember, he couldn’t feel any of this sensation himself. “That story is really about what it meant to him to be a sexual provider.” Another example: All of the men coming into his practice seeking a harder erection. The thing is, firmness does nothing for a guy’s sensitivity or orgasm—it’s just the level of stiffness they’re able to provide their partner. “It’s not about the guy—it’s about who he’s trying to be for his partner,” says Morgentaler.
Some Men Are Incredibly Sensitive About Their Sexual Performance
Again, we’re not all that different, right? Morgentaler has had patients whose sexual dysfunction traced all the way back to a single negative comment or bad experience. From buff, tough men breaking down in his office to guys who are devastated when they find out their wife faked an orgasm, these cases have shown him that some men’s confidence and masculinity is deeply rooted in how they see themselves through the eyes of their sexual partners. Obviously this doesn’t mean you should lie to a guy about being amazing in bed (you wouldn’t want someone doing that to you, either!), but Morgentaler suggests another takeaway: “If women want to know the single best thing to keep a relationship positive, I say that if a guy has done something good for you sexually, let him know. Even a simple ‘that was great,’ will do wonders.”
You May Have a Higher Libido Than Him
According to Morgentaler, we’re in the midst of a major sexual shift. Women today are more sexually liberated and more comfortable asking for exactly what they want in bed, which is an overwhelmingly positive thing. But interestingly, it’s resulting in way more business for physicians like Morgentaler. See, guys are just as familiar with the stereotype that they should have the higher libidos, though that doesn’t make it true. “What I’m seeing much more now are men who come in and describe a relationship where their partner wants to have sex a lot more than they do,” says Morgentaler. “It’s not that their desire is so low, it’s just that some women have a stronger libido. That’s probably always been true, but culturally they were not expressing it as much as they do now.” In fact, he has more men come into his office asking for help “keeping up” with the libidos of the women they’re dating. Men who can go one or two rounds in bed are seeking Viagra so they can go a third time—even if they have no actual erectile issues.
By no means are we suggesting that women should have lower libidos or ever feel embarrassed about their desire. Instead, it seems that both genders are going to have to accept that mismatched libidos (in either direction) are a totally natural thing—and we may start to see it becoming more prevalent. “How couples negotiate that can be important. One needs to be respectful of the other person’s sexuality, too.”
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With your wedding date approaching nearer, one thing that you cannot get your mind off is your wedding night. Admit it, you become nervous, happy, scared, anxious, and excited; all at the same time even just thinking about it! After all, it is your first night together, alone with each other as husband and wife.
So, while you spend huge amount of money to make sure everything is top notch on your wedding day, here are a few reasons that will convince you to spend a wee bit more, and book yourself a room in a good hotel for your wedding night.
A wedding house is no less than a fish market. With relatives all over the house, wedding gifts, other wedding supplies scattered everywhere, you would feel like being in the middle of a chaotic place. Not to forget, the terrible conditions of the washrooms with people using them one after the other!
You would not actually be able to say no to your parents or in-laws if they say “beta baaki saare kamre full hai aur tauji ki kamar me dard rehta hai, unka bed yahi lagva dete hai!” Sharing your room with relatives on your first night, not quite what you had in mind, right?
With all your relatives still at home, you obviously cannot afford to get up late at your own sweet will. Nahi to bade kya bolenge, bahu abi tak so rai hai? Kaise sanskar hai? Or, dekho beta bahu ke ate hi badal gaya, kaise der tak so raha hai! And, did we forget to mention the continuous door knocks by your siblings and cousins?
After being surrounded by people for the past few days, with all that band baaja and everything, don’t you want some peaceful time with just you and your partner?
This is specially true for the weddings that take place at night.The wedding rituals usually continue till the early hours of the next day. And, by the time you complete all the remaining customs, you are already knocking at the dawn. All you need at that time is a cosy bed and a lot of undisturbed sleep, which you surely cannot get at home.
There, we said it! And isn’t that true? Unlike what the world thinks you might be doing on your first night, all that both of you want to do is relax and to be more clear, get lots of sleep. Obviously better things follow when you are fresh, but ‘rest is the need of the hour’. Period!
It is definitely a special night for both of you. Whatever you may choose to do, is your call. Because it is just the beginning of your new journey together, and you want every bit of it to be special and uninterrupted.
It is obviously a great feeling to be surrounded by loved ones post your wedding, but not at the cost of sabotaging your wedding night. And, it is just a matter of one night; you are available for your family from the next day. So, keeping all this in mind, book your room in a nice hotel asap!
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अल्फ़ाज़ ही सब कुछ होते है…
दिल जीत भी लेते है दिल चिर भी देते है!
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